The Process of Transition
The New Year is not so new anymore and you may be feeling it. Last week we introduced the Stages of Change model as a way to accept your inability to keep a resolution, and the benefits of trying again. While it’s true we all experience setbacks while trying to make changes, if we accept them and return to our initial commitment, over time we will make the change we resolved to make.
During this cycle of succeeding for a time, failing, and then succeeding again, you will feel many emotions. The “Process of Transition” model by John M. Fisher, may help you better understand some of those emotions. See if you can relate to these steps:
- Anxiety – You don’t really know what’s going to happen next, and you aren’t sure what your change will really look like at this point.
- Happiness – You’ve committed to the change, and you are feeling really good about it.
- Fear – Self-perception is changing, and you’re not sure of who you are at this point or if the change is possible and you may even question if it’s a good change
- Threat/Relapse – You’re just not sure how to be a new person and some of your actions no longer seem consistent. You may relapse into your old habits without thinking about it, or out of a need to feel in-control again
- Guilt – You may feel guilty over a relapse, but more likely, you feel guilty that you ever picked up ‘such a bad habit’ to begin with – you may feel guilty for things you have or haven’t done.
- Depression – You may feel confused and really start to wonder ‘who you are.’
From here you will choose one of three roads:
- Disillusionment/Defeat – Giving up
- Gradual Acceptance
- Hostility to self, others, or the change in general
See the diagram:
See the diagram as adapted for those quitting smoking: http://www.businessballs.com/freepdfmaterials/fisherchangemodel_smokingadaptationmay.pdf
Obviously, the best choice is Acceptance. Those who can reconcile their past actions with their desire to change can succeed in making permanent, positive changes.
Here’s to you for your efforts to change.
Based on work by: John M Fisher 2000 updated 2003 (disillusionment stage added)
As found on: http://www.scribd.com/doc/34696244/Employee-Motivation’